Bloated, exhausted, emotional, and anxious from the Estrace,
I wait for day one of my next cycle. I can't help but have that slight hope
though that maybe this month will be different and my period will never arrive.
You would think that by now, I would have erased this unlikely hope from my
monthly repertoire, but I've never quite managed to extinguish it. In all
likelihood though, that unwelcome monthly visitor will arrive and this time,
instead of just lying around with a heating pad and ibuprofen and naproxen,
I'll be injecting myself daily with hormones and preparing for my first IVF
attempt. It's terrifying and exciting all at the same time.
My husband feels bad watching how the Estrace alone has
impacted me. He feels helpless that he can't take the suffering away from me
and that he can't share some of the burden of this process. I think that the
partner's suffering in the IVF process is often overlooked and not
acknowledged. While I dread the thought of what it might feel like to go
through these various alien steps in this procedure, at least I have control
because I'm the main attraction in all but one of them. Being a bystander
through a process if often worse than being the person at the centre,
especially when you love the person you're watching experience everything.
It is difficult for the two of us not to feel alone through
this process. As I mentioned before, we don't know anyone personally who has ever
gone through this process. Our friends who long ago stopped asking about our odyssey
to conceive have largely drifted away, busy with their own lives, and almost
none of them know we're even going through IVF. Our families, though supportive
of us seeking help for our fertility issues, have had various reactions to the
turmoil we have been undergoing through this process ranging from supportive to
dismissive to silent. I suppose no one can ever really understand what this
process is like unless they have undergone it themselves.
At least we can take comfort knowing that celebrities have
publicly gone through this difficult process (since we don't know of any none
celebrity who has undergone IVF) and have succeeded in conceiving children,
reportedly Chrissy Teigen, Nicole Kidman, Christine Brinkley, Mariah Carey,
Emma Thompson, and Celine Dion, among others. So we're not alone, it just feels
like it. Lately, some celebrities have started to speak out more about the
difficult journey of IVF, such as Maria Menounos and Chrissy Teigen. Perhaps
celebrities participating in the dialogue more and raising the profile of
processes like IVF will help to extinguish the stigma around fertility issues.
Stay tuned for what happens next (today is day 27 of my
cycle, so things are about to get interesting). . . .
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